Set backs! Life Moving backwards? Reoccurring Dramas…OH My!!!

Set backs! Life moving backwards? Reoccurring Dramas … oh my!!!!

core spirituality, my personal journey

What is a set back… really?

Redefining an old problem like a set back can lean you into and open up whole new levels of personal information once we make the shift. The shift out of the frustration and limitation and disappointment that typically arise from our set backs.

So what could be another reason for a set back? A set back comes to you because you are moving too quickly and have set up unrealistic expectations from the beginning. The set back will slow you down and even halt you. These set backs provide extra time for you to re decide, re think the circumstances within the dynamics of your situation. The larger forces that hold you, the larger part of yourself puts a hold on things because of the way you are moving forward with the ideas you have in mind are not going to manifest as you think they are. The final outcome is not going to be what you planned, and you have to make adjustments.

Corrections need to made in order to bring the outcomes you have in mind.

The set back is a zone of extra time that provides for you the space to observe and make those corrections. Welcoming a set back for what it truly is will smooth out the frustrating conditions you have and will open you to recognizing something you have missed up to now. Set backs are for your own good, your own well-being. Sometimes it is a matter of timing, sometimes it is in the structure of your design, sometimes it is just some detail that needs adjusting so that what you think is going to happen can happen. I know that when I encounter my own set backs I have been moving too rapidly and I must slow down and make readjustments or I had set up unrealistic expectations or both. It’s that simple.

Moving backwards is really moving forwards, learning to get a grip on reality

There is no real moving backwards however it feels like it. We are moving forwards by dipping down into something we bring up from our past that needs processing. A past incident, or the sense of moving backwards arises when there are details of our story that have been missed, obscured to our awareness, and we need to take a fresh new look and find out something new in an old situation. This can only happen in our “now”moment. Whenever an old drama shows up again in my now moment I take a look at what I may have missed before.

That old drama is back again, now what do I do?

Be open to it. Stay open, be receptive, and feel stuff.

There are a lot of pieces of valuable information contained in us that we habitually skip over. We sometimes need to have a review so that we can learn what it is we have missed all along.

Dramas do not repeat themselves once they have completed unless you are realizing your final testing in that set up. From a spiritual point of view we will test ourselves to find out if there are any emotional, mental charges still sitting inside us around any one drama. Once we find that we have managed every highly charged aspect we carry around a drama and there no longer is upset, or emotional charge, my experience is that the drama recedes. The drama no longer pulls you off your path. I have found that I actually can laugh where once I was crying or horrified, and I find that I have gratitude replacing all the previous uncomfortable feelings I was in the grips of inside myself. There is a new neutrality and an understanding.

While this has been my own experience with old dramas that reappear, it is not the case with those individuals with whom the drama was being acted out. I realize that not everyone gets the awareness of the situation all at the same time. Thus another person or persons can still be enslaved by the components of a particular drama for some time afterwards without realizing all that the drama could teach them.

We all have our own timing in the awakening process of life. I have learned to accept this about us and not hold grudges or negativity with those people still stuck in the learning experiences of a drama.

The meaningful purpose of going within to find answers

We don’t always get to the meaningful purpose of set backs and dramas when we are engaged on the surface with our contemporaries. Our socialization process has brainwashed most of us to seek and find validity in our conclusions through agreements in numbers. Instead of our own individual conscience, or inner knowledge. And for this reason the act of self-reflection, observation, and going deeper is necessary to resolve our own unanswered questions about our involvements in any set backs or dramas that keep showing up in our lives. The deeper layers of our emotions, our core feelings, and our intuitions all hold valuable new levels of information that will balance out these scenarios.

Not necessarily for everyone but surely for yourself.

Taking our dramas apart to find what is deep inside us

Set backs and dramas are connected to important issues for which we are born to face as spiritual beings having a human experience. Our conundrums, difficulties, and personal challenges all have deeper meaning and significance to our over all spiritual selves. We are meant to solve the problems, figure them out and learn new things. Not just suffer, and repeat. ( or be punished as some doctrines and dogmas are teaching)

Thus to make time to take apart the components of our painful dramas will start the process of going deeper inside ourselves. Learning to observe with a keener eye to details, and to find what is it about a set back or drama that hooks us.

These hooks in our psyche’s are our deeper places of potential self knowing and provide valuable information for which we must be willing to dive deeper, see more, and accept what it is we have not about ourselves.

There are aspects of ourselves for which we have turned away, refused to accept, or denied. These reoccurring dramas are our wake up calls to our inner spiritual development. They cannot just be willed away, they need to be embraced and processed and we then learn from them. Be prepared to have your lens of perception shift, often it has been our perceptual lens that filtered out meaningful info. Here is where you get the realizations that begin to infuse your awareness with new possibilities. We learn to see differently!

How our life situations are really our own set ups

Typically when we form situations and then they turn into dramas that wont go away we did so in some way that has been unconscious. This lack of self-awareness built the circumstances that are in those dramas. When they return they do so by returning to a source in the dynamic. It is our own part in the drama that becomes the issue and so we learn to look again. This is our own set up and we set it up. We do this to ourselves. Yet we don’t realize this at the beginning until we have to suffer through the results of our actions in any repeating scenario. And the situation comes back to us.

It does so because of some part that we played in it. Now we get another chance to clean it up, look at it with a fresh perspective and re decide.

Our spiritual nature is set up so that everything returns to its source. This is a universal component of the cosmos. This quality filters through all life. And so with our unresolved issues…. they come back to us because in some way we are the creators of them. As co creators in life we are spiritually filled with integrity even when our personalities are not yet, our spiritual nature makes sure we stay congruent to our actions and returns situations back to us to complete. The dramas in our lives stop repeating when we complete our sides of the equation in those dramas. And then and only then do we get unhooked!

Unconsciousness and lack of awareness… turning away from our own depth of self

By looking away, ignoring, staying in denial, by separating ourselves humans think they can get away from their creations, their dramas. Avoiding all responsibility for co creating. This is just so not true. I have myself had the experience of doing all of these things. I moved across the world to another country where they did not even speak English, and I knew only a few people. What showed up at a party? A person who had the same issues, the same attraction to me, the same drama! Ugggh! I could not believe it at the time. How was this possible I asked myself ? Yet I learned that the cosmos is so congruent, so real and so capable that it provided to me, and I attracted to myself the very same drama I left behind. I did this because I was holding all the patterns inside me and still vibration ally the same. I was a walking magnet for specific dramas. What a realization. I learned to become more conscious and look more deeply inside myself so I could find out how to get unhooked from my drama. I had to face my own denial.

Denial and the painful price we pay by insisting on being stuck

Our humanity is filled with pain and suffering which results in repeating life dramas, all kinds of toxic addictions, and strange mental diseases.

Deep within us is some kind of denial about our creations.

Denials about our parts we play in the ongoing unfolding of circumstances in our lives. Our denials exact a tremendous price of disharmony. When we begin to realize how it is we are each co creating our lives via our choices we begin to go to new levels of capability that reveal the true spiritual power that lies within us as spiritual beings having a human experience.

The remarkable spiritual ability we all have to get through

As we brake away from denials we learn to embrace our place. We can learn new things and our capacity to hold what we resisted becomes enhanced. Through new inner powers of courage and maturity we develop new skills with which to embrace dramas. Insight, clarity, and deeper feelings all start moving into our interior and the spiritual energies within us start to catalyze our personalities in powerful new ways.

When we step out of the hypnotized brain washing socialization many of us have been through and begin to investigate our own spiritual nature we find we have more energy. This energy gets UN-tethered to dramas and is free for us to co create so much more and so much better. Our hearts respond naturally as vehicles of knowledge and wisdom. We begin to learn to care in new ways.

The new places our caring will take us

The new ways our caring will infuse us is with self-love and love for others. By moving aside the harsh and limiting aspects of our nature to reveal our larger ability to care more deeply. Caring more deeply sustains us when it gets really hard to withstand the viewing of our own creations, our parts. When we have been unconscious or we turned away. The painful self realizations we must pass through are buffered by the caring loving heart that simultaneously opens and illuminates our character. Providing us a broader perspective with which to solve our problem with any repeating drama. Our heart-felt illuminations free our limiting thinking minds.

Opening our hearts and freeing ourselves from our own minds

The power of our thinking minds to hold us in enslavement is quite remarkable. What we invest into by way of our thinking, of our beliefs that were formed out of thought is staggering. Often in my work I have encountered people who are totally taken over by the powers of their linear, logical thinking minds. This habit of putting so much of ourselves into our minds and holding ourselves there is a common social and cultural experience that is strengthened by group agreements. Our minds can loop us around in dramas like crazy. My experience is that once the heart openings begin that this causes a relocation of logical mind out of its control over us and causes a new place where the mind learns to interpret the heart messages. Using intellect in this way integrates both the qualities of the thinking mind with the heart mind. Freeing our attachments to thinking. This will lead us to new practices of authentic personal sovereignty quite naturally for each of us. This natural exchange of new skills integrates the new into our lives in practical ways that take care of our places in any reoccurring dramas.

Learning new ways and practicing personal sovereignty

These new skill sets develop our characters and abilities in fascinating new ways. In my case one of the first new skills I gained was listening. Instead of insisting on always having my point of view heard, I learned how wonderful it is to listen without adding my point of view. This shifted all my relationships. And particularly my inner relationship as I learned to listen more deeply to my own inner urges, intuitions, and the wise wisdom that would appear in me while engaged in any dramas. Insight in the way of unspoken pictures, words, feelings, and messages start to appear in the mind which start informing in a way that adds to our capacity to understand, accept, embrace, and care more deeply those people and situations. People and situations that in the past may have triggered negativity now inform positively. As personal sovereignty develops so does interior richness of our innate spiritual nature.

The shifting of our relationships

When we go into our set backs, and recurring dramas with our spiritual nature intact and informing us with all these new pieces of information I have found the dynamics of my relationships have shifted. For one thing I have virtually little of the dramas I used to in my closest circles. The amount of love we share has increased on a daily basis on a scale I can hardly describe or measure. I had no idea how full the world is with loving caring people. They, we… are everywhere in all walks of life and show up in any moment. I have found it astounding how loving individuals show up in my world who are complete strangers who share their loving selves with me. In lines at grocery store, at the gas station, clients, formerly hostile family members… at any moment around any bend there can be a loving being that will meet up with us and strengthen us on our path. Amazing how this happens over and over again.

Globally we have many set backs and certainly many recurring dramas.

These situations are being perpetrated by individuals who invest into these things intentionally and unconsciously for personal gain at the expense of others . Perpetrating them so as to cause more suffering, more capacity for ego take overs. The continuous repetition on a world-wide basis of drama is a way in which we are swayed from looking into our dramas and led to believe we are victims.

These victimization dilemmas will recede more and more as individuals learn the true significance of these situations in our own personal daily lives.

As we pull ourselves away from the insistence on participating in repeating dramas we discover new and better situations. And this we have to do on a personal level. In this way our personal lives really do make a difference and we stop what it is that makes us crazy.

Our own personal accountability and inner responses drive forward what is happening in our shared reality. We dismantle toxic set ups, and dramas and replace them with our own versions of healthy ones. We are able to watch this in our own little lives and as we cultivate this to larger and larger degrees and it becomes apparent how this is all interconnected and shaping our external reality.

Our choices to live in drama or out of drama, to realize how our set backs have significance all lead us toward our next possibility. By virtue of that choice we make we can either live in frustration and pain and suffering repeating over and over still even more, or we can choose differently and learn to go deeper into our own inner knowledge and find our own new purposeful new choices. It is a choice that is with each one of us.

Core spirituality, my personal journey of self investigation